Why become a surrogate?
The idea of carrying a child for an infertile couple is truly commendable. When a couple can’t have a child of their own, it is heartbreaking. Thanks to people like you, who are interested in sharing such a special gift, couples are able to make their dream of becoming a parent – a reality.
Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. is made up of former and current surrogates who have a passion for building tomorrow’s families today.
We are an agency that doesn’t just talk about surrogacy; we live it. It’s our passion and our love.
With Surrogacy Alternatives, Inc. you can expect a reputable, reliable, knowledgeable staff…”
Why choose Surrogate Alternatives, Inc.?
We believe in transparency and pride ourselves in having operated our agency with the highest ethical standards in the industry. With SAI, you can expect a reputable, reliable, knowledgeable, supportive and caring staff to guide you step-by-step throughout your entire journey. Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. is made up of former and current surrogates who have a passion for building tomorrow’s families today. Collectively we are responsible for the birth of 31 children!
Compensation & Requirements
COMPENSATION
SAI believes in transparency and we pride ourselves in having operated our agency since 1998 with the highest ethical standards in the industry.
Surrogate Alternatives’ Surrogate Benefit Package (SBP) has other items in it that most agencies do not. Below is a list of what we offer:
Pregnancy Compensation: This amount will be paid to you after the confirmation of a fetal heartbeat through ultrasound. You will be entitled to 10 monthly
payments of this pregnancy compensation.
“Extra” Pregnancy Compensation for carrying Twins or Triplets: This fee begins at the 18th week of pregnancy, if it is determined that you are carrying twins or triplets for your intended parents.
Monthly Non-Accountable Expense Allowance: This monthly non-accountable allowance is paid to you the month following the finalization of legal contracts between you (the surrogate) and your intended parents. You are entitled to receive this allowance as long as you are in contract with your intended parents, and for one month after giving birth. You do not need to provide receipts for this allowance. This allowance covers a variety of things such as over the counter medication, faxing, postage, and non-reimbursed childcare.
IVF/Embryo Transfer Fee: You are entitled to this fee every time you have an embryo transfer for your intended parents. Hopefully it works on the first try, but in case it doesn’t, this fee compensates you for lost wages and childcare, since most IVF clinics require you stay on bed rest for 2-3 days following the embryo transfer procedure.
Maternity Clothing Allowance: This is a one-time fee given to our surrogate mothers to purchase maternity clothing. If the surrogate becomes pregnant with Twins, this fee will increase by $200.
Monthly Attendance for Support Group Meetings: SAI holds fun monthly support group meetings at our office in Chula Vista, CA. Our meetings are on Sundays at 11:00 AM, to make it convenient for our surrogates to attend. If you do not live in the San Diego area, we have designed our SBP so that an out-of-town surrogate will still benefit and receives this fee.
Housekeeping Allowance: This begins at the 13th week of pregnancy and continues throughout the pregnancy until delivery. You are given a weekly allowance for this service.
IVF Physician Appointments: You will be entitled to receive this fee if you are employed full-time and have to miss work to attend an IVF appointment.
Cancelled Cycle Fee: This fee is paid to you only if you begin stimulation medication, and then at no fault of yours, the cycle becomes cancelled due to unforeseen circumstances.
Life Insurance: Our surrogates can be reimbursed for obtaining a term life insurance policy.
Medical Insurance: If you or your spouse does not have medical insurance through your employer, you will have to apply for a health insurance policy, which SAI will keep you do. The amount of the monthly insurance premium will be reimbursed to you by your intended parents through an escrow account.
Physician Recommended C-section: If your OB doctor recommends you deliver by c-section this fee will be paid to you. This fee covers, the pain and suffering that also happens with delivery and recovery. It also covers childcare and housekeeping during the postpartum period.
Physician Ordered Bedrest: If your doctor determines that he wants you on bed rest due to the pregnancy, you will be entitled to this weekly fee.
Supplying Breast Milk (optional): After delivery if you choose to pump milk for your surrogate baby, you will be compensated a weekly amount for this. You will also be reimbursed for any supplies you purchase.
Invasive Procedure Fee: Unfortunately, things can happen in pregnancy that we have no control over. If this happens, you will be compensated a fee for the inconvenience and pain or suffering.
Long Distance Travel: If your IVF clinic is located in a different city & county than where you live, you will be reimbursed all your travel costs. This includes, (if needed): air fare, mileage, car rental, hotel and food per diem.
Pregnancy Wellness Program: Surrogate Alternatives prides itself in offering our surrogate mothers a unique health and wellness program that includes monthly acupuncture or massage sessions each month, along with high quality prenatal vitamins healthy and stress-free pregnancy. We encourage all surrogates to take advantage of this unique program!
Surrogate Retreat Weekends: We are one of the only agencies that has up to 3 retreats per year. Our staff, with much time, attention and love, puts these retreat weekends together. We make sure our surrogate mothers enjoy a weekend away full of fun, bonding and relaxation. You will be entitled to attend one retreat per calendar year at no cost to you. This fee is covered for your attendance by your intended parents. SAI usually holds these retreats in Palm Springs, Los Angeles, and at beautiful spa resorts around San Diego County.
Family Events: We love to meet our surrogates families and are grateful to them for all of the support they are providing. We hold our family events once or twice a year, that include fun activities for the kids, catered lunch and raffle drawings for prizes. In 2013 SAI gave away a brand-new 2013 Mini Cooper to one of our surrogate moms.
REQUIREMENTS
Surrogate Mother Requirements
- Has given birth to and be raising that child This is the number one requirement to become a surrogate mother with Surrogate Alternatives as well as all IVF clinics. The reason is that once a woman gives birth, it shows she is able to become pregnant and establishes fertility. The IVF clinic will also require OB records from the surrogate, so the IVF physician can review them to make sure the surrogate had an uneventful and uncomplicated pregnancy. The reason Surrogate Alternatives likes to know you are raising your child, is that it shows stability as not only a mother and but also in life.
- Has a healthy lifestyle This is very important to all parties involved. Our surrogate mothers must live a healthy lifestyle to be given the trust to take care of someone else’s child. Intended parents basically want to make sure their surrogate mother is taking care of the pregnancy like they would if it was their own child they were carrying. We all know as mothers, that it’s important to eat healthy and exercise while we are pregnant to avoid possible complications. This also ensures that the baby has a great start to life.
- Be financially stable It’s very important to Surrogate Alternatives that our surrogate mothers are financially stable and not collecting government assistance. The reason that this matter’s to us it that we have to make sure they are becoming a surrogate mother for the right reasons and just not solely on the funds they will receive. Women who sign up to become surrogates understand that it takes sacrifice and time to be a surrogate mother. It’s also a great thing to receive the extra funds for your future, whether used to go back to school or save for a down payment on a first home.
- Responsible lifestyle Surrogate Alternatives feels that the two above requirements fit into this category. We feel a surrogate mother must live a stable lifestyle in order to qualify to become a surrogate mother. This means no drugs of any kind, whether it is street or prescription pills without your OB’s consent. The child is the most important part of the surrogacy process and ensuring the babies health and wellbeing is expected.
- Be a non-smoker This is a very important requirement when you sign up to become a surrogate mother. Smoking during pregnancy can cause a stillbirth, premature delivery, and low birth weight. It will also cut the oxygen off to the baby by narrowing blood vessels throughout your body, including the ones in the umbilical cord. So you see why we do not accept smokers into our program.
- BMI under 32 IVF clinics have become very strict in regards to the body mass index (BMI) a surrogate mother must be, in order to become a surrogate mother. The reason for this is, if you are over the normal BMI you are at a greater risk of developing diabetes, which can be a risk not only to you but also, to the pregnancy.
- No history of mental illness To be a surrogate mother you have to be able to schedule appointments, remember to attend them and take the proper medication when the time comes. You have to also be able to read and understand the legal contract you will be entering into with the couple you help. Being a surrogate mother requires you to relinquish your rights to the baby once you deliver, as you are only the carrier and not the biological or legal parent. We have to be sure you are stable enough to be able to do that.
- Your age is between 21-38 During our 15 years of experience in operating a surrogacy and egg donation agency, we feel that our surrogates need to be at least 21 years of age to be a surrogate; this is also an IVF clinic requirement. We accept surrogate mothers up to the age of 38, since of course it’s the egg donors or intended mothers who provide their eggs, and not the surrogate mother.
- The surrogate must agree to psychological & drug screenings This is one of the standard requirements of our program and the IVF clinic. The IVF clinic not only requires it, but it is important as you are carrying someone else’s child and must make sure you are healthy. The intended parents must put their trust in you, a complete stranger and this only helps them through this emotional process.
- IUD’s will have to be removed If you have an IUD for birth control, you will have to schedule an appointment with your OB or primary care doctor to have it removed. You cannot proceed with an IVF cycle if you have an IUD, as the IVF doctor will need to look at your uterus to make sure there is no scarring or fibroids and he cannot do this with an IUD in place. You cannot have an IUD in you while attempting an embryo transfer.
- Tubal ligation is OK It’s ok if you have had your tubes tied. As a surrogate mother, your eggs will not be used, only your uterus as the carrier.
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